As guys have urges, if their gf isn't ready for sex, is it fair that the guy should be allowed to look at porn?

We've been married for 15 years and he still looks at porn.

Ah. My rule is that you can look at porn so long as you're not pretending YOU are having sex with the porn "object". You have to roleplay being someone else, just get off on the visual aspect, etc.

Same with looking at other women/men. Look at them and think "they're pretty but not as pretty as my girl/guy."

As guys have urges, if their gf isn't ready for sex, is it fair that the guy should be allowed to look at porn?


Difficult to answer, really. I would say it is fair, but some might consider it cheating.

I've been married 4 years and I look at porn. It's not to the exclusion of Dolphin though: whenever she is in the mood I forget about porn and direct all my attention to her.

Ant

No. But I'd certainly limit my porn viewing time and make sure she is OK with it before pursuing it.

I'd say no, it isn't cheating. 

Not at all. Hell, there are times when I don't feel like doing anything, and I had Rice Cube a movie. :D

No, of course it's not cheating.

Images are images, thoughts are thoughts.

Masturbation probably keeps some people out of trouble.

Cheating is romantic/sexual liasons outside of an established monogamous relationship. 

If one of you doesn't like the other looking at porn, then you've got to sort it out, but it's not cheating. 

Not at all. Hell, there are times when I don't feel like doing anything, and I had Rice Cube a movie. :D


Damn, that's cold! "Here's Traci Lord of the Rings, now go beat off!"

Actually, it's a lot better to be upfront and direct about it. Dolphin is, at times, very uncommunicative in this area. She sends what I think are the "I'm not in the mood" signals, so I set up the WWE main event match between Rosie and her sisters to wrestle with Big Jim and the twins, and 45 minutes later she gives me the "I'm ready" signals.  :-\

Ant